Sunday, May 20, 2018

Wednesday Hodgepodge

I have been away from this blog for so long and I've been missing it. I thought I would jump back in with an old friend that I used to do every week. I hope someone is still around to read it!

1. What would you say is your biggest day to day challenge?
Keeping on track! I have so many things going on that I go from one thing to the next and not always finishing the first thing. I think I multi-task too much.

2. May 16th is National Biographers Day. What's a biography you really enjoyed reading? Is this a genre you read regularly?

This is a genre I rarely read. I do like autobiography books more. The only biography that I can remember really liking recently was Robin by Dave Itzkoff. 

3. How important is keeping a clean house? Do you need to de-clutter your life?

I would say it's right up there toward the top of my lists. I don't always accomplish this goal to my liking, but I give it the old college try. I definitely need to declutter my life to a degree. I've been working on this lately and making some progress.

4. You're the 8th dwarf. What's your name?

Grateful 😊

5. What's surprised you the most about your life or life in general?

I think mostly that I could be this happy and that the older I get, the faster time goes by.

6. Insert your own random thought here.

I am fulfilling one of my bucket list goals in a few weeks. We are going on our first Disney trip with the first set of grandkids and I can't wait. Memory making, here we come!!

Sunday, January 7, 2018

The Best Marriage


I don't make new year's resolutions anymore.  I gave that up years ago.  I think those just set you up for failure.  What I have gone to is setting goals.  I have done much better with this.  One of my new goals is to be more present in the moment. To give my best to God, my family, my work, my friends and most importantly to my marriage.  I have a good marriage, but don't you think everyone can use a little reminder of how important the little things (and the big things) are?  I love the website Power of Positivity and this morning I found a piece about marriage and I loved it.  Below you will find the 21 rules they feel every marriage should follow.  I must say that I tend to agree with them.  What do you think?

21 Rules Every Marriage Should Follow

Find the Good

“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” ~ Fawn Weave
It is easy to overlook the little annoyances of our partner when we’re focused on the good qualities that attracted us in the first place. Stay focused on the good

Find Your Happy

“Marriage doesn’t make you happy–you make your marriage happy.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Do something daily that makes you happy and your relationships will benefit. You can’t be happy in a relationship, if you aren’t happy with yourself.

Forgive the Imperfections

“A successful marriage isn’t the union of two perfect people. It’s that of two imperfect people who have learned the value of forgiveness and grace.” ~ Darlene Schacht
Forgiving is such an important ingredient in relationships. Holding on to things that make you angry keeps you in a negative space and prevent you from being your best self.

It Begins With You

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” ~ Barnett R. Brickner
Trying to change your partner will only backfire so focus on your contribution. Tackle only what you can control.

Make Your Marriage a Priority

“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. Its the way you love your partner every day.” ~ Barbara De Angelis
Stop looking at marriage as a thing and start thinking of it as part of you. Take care of it, nurture it and let it grow.

Express Your Love Daily

“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.” ~ Orlando Battista
Be open with your expressions of love.

Savor the Good

“Marriage is like a fine wine, if tended properly, it just gets better with age.” ~ Unknown
Appreciating and enjoying the good in your relationship attracts more good and your relationship becomes stronger and better.

Make Self-Care a Priority

“One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.” ~ Stormie Omartian
You can’t take care of your relationships if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Make it a priority.

Learn from the Past and Dream of the Future

“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.” ~ Diane Frolov
Find the lessons from the past and use them to help you shape your future.

Learn Something New Every Day

“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” ~ Pearl Buck
Learn to love learning. Learning is the key to growth and evolution. And growth is the key to strong relationships.

Live in the Now

“Love like there’s no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.” ~ Max Lucado
Stay focused on what really matters and don’t let life’s distractions keep you from living in the moment.

Celebrate The Best of Each Other

“In marriage, when we honor and celebrate each other, we’re freed up to be the best people we can be.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Make every day a celebration of the good in your relationship and in each other

Be Kind and Generous

“A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” ~ Diane Sawyer
Do something special every day. A little note, a surprise cup of coffee or simple phone call just to say hi, will go a long way to showing your partner how much you value them.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

“Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.” ~ Chinese Proverb
Make sure your actions show your love. Often times what you do and how you do it says more than expressing your love with words.

Invest Your Time

“The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.” ~ Amy Grant
Nothing takes the place of spending time on the relationships that matter most.

Give a Free Pass

“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.” ~ J & G Murphy
There are bound to be things that annoy you about your partner. Make a commitment to accept them and let them go.

It’s The Little Things

“It’s the little things that keep us together. Those little things will make me love you forever.” ~ Sonia Schaad
It’s isn’t the grand gestures that say love, it is all the little things we do every day.

Be Supportive

“Lean on each other’s strengths. Forgive each other’s weaknesses.” ~ Unknown
It is easy to be in a relationship when things are going well but it’s the tough times that strengthens the bond. Remember to be there, be supportive and ask for help when you need it.

Maintenance Matters

“A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you don’t go and buy a new house, you change the lightbulb.” ~ Unknown
Making sure your relationship gets a regular care. It becomes more costly if you wait too long.

Think Freely

“If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.” ~ Unknown
Fostering your creative, thinking mind will keep you happy and thriving in your relationships.

Be Committed

“Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses.” ~ Dr. James Dobson
It’s simple really, you have to be in willing to go through the valleys as much as you are willing to go through the peaks. Put yourself all in and stay in it for the long haul.

Saturday, March 4, 2017

Wednesday Hodgepodge

I have to admit that I have been a horrible blogger.  Getting here and writing has been something that I have let go by the wayside for far too long.  This morning in my Facebook memories, a Wednesday Hodgepodge link showed up.  I clicked the link and was thrilled to find that this is still going on.  So, I'm getting my blogging feet wet again with this week's Hodgepodge.  

1. 'Slow and steady wins the race'...tell us about a time this was true in your own life.Well, I'm going to say that it was fitting exercising into my life on a regular basis.  It's such an easy thing to not do, but I feel so much better when I do. 

2. 'As slow as molasses'...Do you like molasses? How about maple syrup? Caramel? Butterscotch? What's your favorite of the slow moving treats mentioned here, and what's your favorite food made with that sweet treat?Molasses is wonderful in my baked beans and maple syrup is too sweet.  Butterscotch is okay, but give me caramel every time.  My favorite is any kid of ice cream that has caramel.  My best one going right now is a slated caramel gelato.  Delicious! 

3. Your favorite slow song?I have loads of favorites, but if I have to pick just one, it would be the remake of That's All by Rod Stewart.  I've left the You Tube video for you. 

4. Your favorite thing to make in a slow cooker or crock pot?Definitely beef stew!  I don't have a recipe to share because I rarely make it the same way.  I just start putting stuff in and that's how it goes.  Everyone loves it though, so I guess that's okay.

5. 'You may delay, but time will not.'~Benjamin Franklin  Are you more a hurrier or a delayer when it comes to unpleasant tasks that need doing? What are you currently either delaying or hurrying to get through this week or month?
I am a hurrier if it's an unpleasant task.  I want it done yesterday!  If it's a fun task, I am definitely a delayer.  I want it to last as long as possible.  My husband and I have been deep cleaning the basement.  I thought that I was going to hate this project, but it has been so much fun.  Every box, we find a new treasure from our 43 years together.  It is taking way longer than expected because of the memories that we are uncovering.

6. Tell us three things you encounter regularly or even just occasionally that you find to be annoyingly slow.The grocery check out line.
The doctor's waiting room.
My preschoolers getting ready to go home.

7. March is National Craft Month. Are you crafty? Tell us about something crafty you'll try in the next thirty one days. Or something crafty you'd like to try or wish you had the skill to  make happen.I am crafty to a degree when it comes to sewing and painting.  It seems like lately though, most of my crafting is with the grandkids and I love that.  The two skills that I wish I knew are crocheting and quilting.  I have friends who amazingly awesome things and I am so jealous.

8. Insert your own random thought here.My mind is consumed with planning a Disney trip for June.  I am so excited.  We are going with our oldest daughter and her husband and our youngest daughter and her husband.  We've never taken an adult Disney trip.  I think it is going to be so much fun!

Wednesday, December 7, 2016


I hate my clothes! 

It usually happens at the end of a season when I'm sick of wearing the same things.  This year, it happened at the beginning of the season.  That's a really bad sign. 

I'm not a shopper which poses a problem right at the start.  If you don't like to shop, you don't go out nearly often enough to get new clothes to keep from hating your wardrobe.  My husband doesn't appreciate the dinosaur that he is married to.  I'm sure there are many husbands out there who would love to have a wife who hates to shop! 

I've been trying to get some new things.  I've done most of it online.  A few new pants, a sweater, a vest.  I need to go get shoes.  Buying those online doesn't sound like the best idea.  I need so much more, but it's a start.

The Christmas season doesn't seem like the best time to be doing this.  Crowded stores isn't my thing and trying on clothes when it's that crowded really sounds like a bad idea. 

As much as I hate my clothes, I keep thinking that everyone else must hate my clothes.  I just really see myself in them in the morning when I get dressed and look in the mirror before I leave for work.  Everyone else has to look at them day after day.  I'm sorry, guys.  I promise, I'm getting new stuff.  Soon!

Times up!  #fiveminutesfreewrite

Monday, December 5, 2016


Do you avoid mirrors?  I don't know that I avoid them, but I don't go out of my way to look in them.  I look in the morning when I brush my teeth and put on makeup and do my hair.  I look again at night when I wash my face and brush my teeth.  Aside from those times, I don't really look at myself during the day.

I wonder if it's because I'm afraid that I'm not going to like what I see?  I'm days away from turning 62 and things sure do look different than they used to.  There's an extra chin and lots of lines and wrinkles.  Gray roots in the hair, if I don't keep up with the color.  There's even a few of those dark age spots that you hear about on the commercials.

I don't think that's really why though.  I'm kind of proud of those lines and wrinkles.  I earned every one of them.  I think it's just that my days are busy and looking in the mirror doesn't really occur to me.  I think it's that simple. 

Times up.  #fiveminutefreewrite

Sunday, December 4, 2016


It took me a long time, a really long time to say yes to being good to myself.  I finally did it though and it's been a great thing.

I have always put other people before myself.  I always have and probably always will.  It's just my nature.  I love to do for others, but I've learned that taking time for me is really important.

Three years ago during the year before my 60th birthday, I really made a point of thinking about me.  I made the effort to think about myself and to do the things that I wanted to do.  It didn't mean that I had to stop doing for others.  It just meant that I had to make the time for me too and I did. 

It was amazing how good me time felt.  Did I deserve the time?  Yes!  Did I enjoy the time?  Yes!  Was I still involved with all the other things that I was involved in before?  Yes!  Was I still there for my family?  Yes!   Was it one of the best things I have ever done for myself?  Yes Yes Yes!!!

Times up!  #fiveminutefreewrite

Saturday, December 3, 2016


I call her Mom.  So many wonderful things come to mind when you say that word.  Memories, oh the memories.
My Mom will be 91 on the 14th of this month, but you would never guess it.  She's not your average 91 year old.  She is amazing.  We are so blessed that she is healthy with the exception of arthritis in her hip and knee.  She is the head of our family.  She has three daughters, one son, two sons-in-law, one daughter-in-law, nine grandkids and ten great grandkids.  She showers everyone one of us with so much love and she gets that love back from everyone of us.

Everything I know about being a wife, mom and grammy, I learned from my Mom.  She taught me that you can do anything if you try hard enough.  She taught me that family is everything.  She taught me that everything won't always work out like you want, but you move on and deal with it.  She taught me that love is the best thing in the world.  She has been the best example ever and I love her with all my heart!  Thanks for all the lessons, Mom. 
You are truly the best!

That's five minutes.  #fiveminutesfreewrite

Friday, December 2, 2016


I live in northwest Indiana and the weather here this fall has been something else.  It's only really been in the last week or so that it has begun to feel like winter is coming. 

Last week, we still had flowers blooming and days that were in the 50's.  It made it much easier to get the leaves up and the landscaping cleaned out. 

I'm one of those people who really likes where I live because we get all four seasons of weather.  There is something I love about every one of them.  We live a few miles from a state park and hiking there is great in all seasons. 

But, back to weather.  I don't mind the cold one little bit in the winter.  You can dress for that pretty easily.  What I don't care for is when we get the really windy days.  That is just brutal.  You can't keep warm in that kind of weather.

Oops!  That's six minutes.  #fiveminutefreewrite

Thursday, December 1, 2016


Hello friends!  Are there any of you out there anymore?  I know it's been forever since I posted anything here and I'm sorry about that. 

Life gets busy and I just don't get around to blogging anymore.  It's not that I don't want to, it's just that I don't seem to find the time to and even if I find the time, is there anything that I have to say that would make you want to read it?

I was on Facebook after work today and Thea had posted about a new thing for December.  It's #fiveminutefreewrite.  You are supposed to set a timer for five minutes and write about the idea for that day.  I figure if there is a way to get back to blogging more regularly, this might be it. 

So, with the time I have left, let me say hello!  I really have missed blogging.  This space right here has always been my place for me. The place that I could talk about anything that was on my mind.  A place to talk about my about life and family and friends.  If something good or bad happened, I could talk it out here.

Like Thea, I had considered numerous times lately about not blogging anymore.  Everything now seems to be social media, but things can get really ugly there.  Just look at the last few moths with politics.  UGLY!!  But, I don't think I'm ready to give this space up, at least not yet.  So, this month will be my test run to see if I have a real interest in keeping it going. 

Times up!  Here is the writing schedule if you are a blogger and want to join in.  See you tomorrow!

Saturday, May 28, 2016

It Was 45 Years Ago Today!

It was May 28, 1971. I was upstairs in my bedroom with two of my best friends getting ready for a first date with an older man. I was 16 and just finishing my sophomore year of high school. He was 19 and had been out of school a year and working in the construction field operating heavy equipment. My mom and dad weren't sure if this was a good idea, but they were willing to give it a try.

We had met the week before at the Port. It's a local root beer stand where all the kids cruised and hung out. Believe it or not, it's still there today. They still have drive up dining in your car and the car hops wear roller skates. The food trays attach to your car window. I kid you not. He actually asked the girl I was with out first. To this day he claims he was just getting information about me.

Whatever the reason, tonight was my turn. I began to hear the distant rumble of his car engine. My God that car was loud. I would learn later that there was no sneaking in late in that car. You could hear it coming two blocks away. My heart began to beat faster and I was nervous. The only older guys I had dated in my limited dating experiences were just a year older than me and still in school. I take a last look in the mirror. My friends say I look awesome in my lime green hip hugger bell bottoms and white sleeveless shirt with lime and yellow trim. My hair is long and flowing and my make up is perfect. I head down the stairs that lead to the foyer which is right next to the living room where he will be waiting.

I got half way down the stairs and I see him....smoking a cigarette!!!! Are you out of your freakin mind!?!? My mother hates smoking and had tried to get my dad to stop for years. This is not the way to make a good first impression. I can feel the blood rising to my face. I just need to not make eye contact with my mom and get him the heck out of there. We say good bye and we are finally out the door.

I begin to regain my normal body temp and breathe a say of relief. I don't know him well enough to tell him he's an idiot. Of course, that will come later. We are double dating and the other couple is in the backseat. I say hello and we are on our way to the 49er Drive In (it's still there too) to see the romantic classic PATTON. Nobody told us that it was a 12 hour movie and I'm late getting home on the first date. My dad is cool about it because we were seeing a war movie. My mom wasn't thrilled, but she wasn't going ballistic or anything.

I saw him the next day and the next day and the next day and every day there after. With the exception of a huge fight in 1972 that lasted for two days, we have never been apart. We got engaged on November 19, 1972 and were married on September 8, 1973. When I think about the time frame, I can't believe that my parents let that all happen. I got engaged when I was a senior in high school and married three months after I graduated at the age of 18. We had our first baby when I was 20 and he was 23.

I think the main reason we have stayed together with no major problems over the years is this. We were so young. We had no expectations of what marriage should be. It was what it was and we were happy. We grew up together and made our own adventures along the way. We built a really good life. We had excellent examples in both of our parents. They had been together forever and were both happy in their marriages. We are still happy together and I am blessed to have that all these years later. I can't imagine my life with anyone else.

My plan for the rest of the day is to convince Dick that going to the drive in is a good idea. It is supposed to rain and I don't know what is playing, but I don't care. It is Saturday, May 28, 2011. 45 years later and I think we need to mark the occasion.  The only problem with that is that we are babysitting our grand pup Duncan for the weekend.  Would he like the drive in?

I know that I have posted this picture before, but I love it. It just looks like us. Happy and relaxed. That is pretty much how we are now. We don't fight. What's the point? If we get mad now, it's over quickly. We have a good life. We have four beautiful daughters who have chosen wonderful men in their lives. We have five perfect grand kids that are the lights of our lives.

Life is good and we can't ask for more than that.